Memoir Writing: Discover Your Life – Emotions and Point of View

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Memory, our tricky friend. How it dances about and plays games on us. Confusing us at times. Irritating us to remember name, place, or thing. The emotion attached to a memory, or the emotion that sparks the memory, as well as what we remember are reflections of who we are.

In the present moment our emotions will shape our point of view of a memory. A good mood may spark good memories and melancholy moods may spark gloomy memories.  In past jobs and relationships I have often wavered in them, swinging back and forth between “I need to leave” to “there are a lot of good things here for me”.   Depending on the day or my mood, I would have a certain perspective of the relationship or job.

Sutra 1.3 from the book Light on the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali translates Sutra 1.3 in this way:

“Volition being the mode of behavior of the mind, it is liable to change our perception of the state and condition of this year from moment to moment.”

Often writing about a memory more than once will reawaken things, shift perspectives and maybe even alter your memory.  Memories often come when we are unprepared for them.  If at all possible try to jot them down.  It is challenging to get those memories back.  After a period of time, a week, a few days, months or years go by and it crosses your mind again.  Perhaps you reflected on the memory, consciously or unconsciously, from your first encounter with it and something has changed.  Perhaps a perception or more details have come to light of that day or event.  Every time you dance with it something new evolves with it.
In her book Your Life as Story by Tristine Rainer she gives the example of writing about your first kiss when you are a young woman and how it will look differently when you write about it at age thirty and age then again at age fifty.  Time and emotion, as well as understanding and knowledge, can reshape and give new meaning to memories.
By examining a memory and writing about it from different perspectives and over periods of time you will remember more of it and grow from it.

Redo this exercise from a previous post.  Reexamine it.  See if anything new comes from it.