I just finished reading Eat, Pray, Love. I am now confused as to what happened in the book or the movie or both. Not sure.
While I was reading the book I folded corners over of pages that resonated with me. I thought I would now reflect on those pages or comments from the end to the beginning – yes in that order. I will see if I can finish reflecting prior to a nap. I hope this venting of feelings will be healing in some way.
The last thing she, Elizabeth Gilbert, says that really hung on me is the concept of ‘paying back’ people who have helped us live and showed us kindness. I always feel like I need to pay back to these people. There is this constant pull to owe someone something. People give me so much that I feel forever in debt to society as a whole. EPL (Eat, Pray, Love) says that we should maybe stop trying to pay back and instead continually say thank you sincerely and honestly for as long as we have voices. Somehow this never feels like enough to me. I am forever feeling undeserving of people’s help.
I need to get past this part of myself that feels like I owe somebody, or everybody, something. I need to get past this part of me that always feels guilty for living. Guilty for receiving love. I’ve often told myself that my life is too good to be true so something bad is going to happen. I feel guilty all the time. I feel undeserving.
On Saturday after my sutra study class Debra, the facilitator and yoga instructor, and I were chatting. She was telling me about things her business advisor has told her. He said that in our culture people pay with money as a means to say thank you. Some cultures give food for sacrifice but in our culture it is monetary and it should be honored and respected. Spend it wisely.
She also mentioned another piece of worldly advice from her business advisor. She said that you can’t be all things to all people. While I know this I forget it or subconsciously feel that it doesn’t apply to me. I bend myself in every direction to make everyone happy and am flooded with guilt if someone is not.